There is not one person who is immune to violence. It can happen to anyone, anytime, or anyplace without notice. An abuser does not care about anything or anyone. Abusers are only interested in control and are extremely dangerous when they no longer have the power to manipulate you. And do not underestimate their ability as master manipulators. They have lived their entire lives influencing people to do almost anything.
Signs of abuse:
– Does your partner have a history of abuse, either in his immediate family or been convicted of domestic battery?
– Are you isolated from everyone and are terrified of someone calling, texting, emailing you, or dropping by unexpectedly?
– Does your partner yell and belittle you by calling you names or putting you down?
– Have you been pushed, slapped, hit, bullied, spit on, or objects thrown at you?
– Do you feel as if you are the one who is crazy and you deserve the punishment?
– Does your partner threaten suicide or murder if you leave?
– Does your partner threaten to forever remove you from your children’s lives?
This type of behavior is inexcusable and there is nothing a person has done to deserve such treatment, especially from a so-called loved one. Even if your partner has a mental illness such as Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, these are not valid reasons to hurt someone.
If you find you are in such a situation, please get out now. There are a lot of resources to help you and your children get out safely. You do not deserve to be abused! Not even once!
In the US: call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.
Canada: call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-363-9010.
Australia: call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732.
Worldwide: visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of help lines and crisis centers.